It’s the most romantic day of the year today, where people who feel guilty about not regularly showing appreciation for those they care about in their day to day lives, overcompensate by spending lots of money & buying into the corporate culture of a day with loosely vague historical connections. It’s certainly the most romantic day of the year for the corporations whose business comes mostly from a guilt induced obligation for many people; I’m sure they have a fantastic time in the following weeks when their bonuses roll in from the masses of sales they have made.
But aside from the obvious consumerisation of this & other events, it can be a good opportunity to remind someone of their importance to you. And for the sensible people among us, there are better ways than just spending as much money as possible. Be creative; male social advice between them paints anything involving handiwork for example to not be ‘masculine’, but in my experience those who subscribe to being ‘macho’ are simply boring as fuck. One thing I admire about homosexuals is (although they can at times be annoying if they are excessively on a mission to demonstrate their homosexuality) they don’t feel obligated to be a part of this. It’s something which can freely be demonstrated should you wish to, by just choosing to do whatever you want. I’ve known several men who would either be deemed gay or at the very least eccentric by other ‘macho’ men due to the way they dress, but upon further inspection are closer to the stereotype of being a ‘real’ man than these others; sleeping with (far) more women & quite often being more physically capable, in the threat of a physical confrontation. For me, common male working class philosophy can either be the lowest most common & self destructive denominator, encouraging & accepting hopeless self destruction instead of the truth that any situation can be improved. Bad advice from those who desire their misery needs company.
Or, more positively in it’s best form; the very foundation of society, providing us with people who grit their teeth, look after their own as well as the wider society, get down to business, get things done, coming through & out of it with a glint in their eye & a humour that can make light of any situation.
All we hear about now, is the ‘patriarchy’, the supposed ‘power of men’ & how we are all born rapists. How utterly disgusting, that an entire gender is painted without reservation as being one thing or another. As I’ve said repeatedly, all you have to do to identify any type of discrimination, is replace the race / gender / sexuality / whatever that the statement is referring to with what is considered the opposite or that of the one making the declaration. If it then still appears offensive, it was originally offensive.
I am one thing; anti-discrimination. Although I often find that many people do indeed (& often by their own volition) end up being rather boring stereotypes, I judge each person on their own merits or lack thereof. Being judgmental is very easy indeed, where actually making some effort to ascertain the character of a person, requires effort. And effort, is ultimately the measure of everyone. Most things in life can be traced back to someone simply not putting the hours in to changing whatever they may have an issue with. I am also fallible in that for example, I may not speak the language of where I currently reside. Or deep down, I know that I could play piano better than I do now. But I acknowledge very clearly that I know what needs to be done to resolve either of these; putting the time in. There are people in the world whose entire existence revolves around creating excuses to avoid doing any actual work.
Generally it simply comes down to people putting the hours into achieving something or to demonstrate something. You don’t need a day prepared for you by an external invisible source to tell someone they’re important to you, which then indirectly charges you for the privilege. Just take a bit of time, ignore any preconceptions about what you ‘should’ or ‘should not’ be doing according to ignorant peers & take the time to do something personalised. Take a step back, use your imagination & do it. Even if it’s not particularly original, if it’s from a place of authenticity it will surely be appreciated. And if it’s not or the recipient is not appreciative, then you’ve made a discovery about the quality of that person & saved yourself any further waste of effort.
A feminist will tell you & others to take pride in your imperfections. But then, you still acknowledge the concept of perfection exists somewhere & you validate it through your acknowledgement. So there always exists an unachievable ideal, to which you must find a way to deal with; an excuse. As we see, this is typically directly at a group of people, instead of taking personal responsibility for, or accepting your naturally understandable & entirely reasonable limitations of yourself. This creates entirely unnecessary conflict.
Instead, be at peace with one self & adopt the philosophical principles of Jeet Kung Do; to be like water & adapt yourself to the uncontrollable entity that is the world. Do as your spirit desires & express yourself as you see fit, & the relationships you form, the work you do & the life you lead will be much more rewarding.