So, everything with Main has turned out fine. We had a long chat & I’ve realised she actually means more to me than I originally thought. Perhaps it’s the constant battling against allergies that’s making me less interested in chasing after other girls, but the idea of (eventually) settling down with her doesn’t seem so intimidating anymore. She doesn’t come with any baggage, has only only banged about ten guys (as far as I know of course) & seems quite honest.
How can you tell if someone is being honest with you? Simple; they say or tell you things you might not want to hear.
How can you tell if someone really loves you? Simple; ask them to complete a task for you. The only caveat is it cannot be sexual. For example, I asked Main to put together a spreadsheet for me with key information about certain retailers based in the UK. It came within a day, presented in a clean & useful format. It did need some refinement but this is normal. The point was it was happily done with no complaints.
If I asked Main to cook me dinner, I know she would say without hesitation unless there were some genuinely extenuating circumstances. Much the same as my mother.
We are currently separated by distance, which is fine for me right now. But in the next couple of years, if things keep going as they are in terms of how I am perceiving the world, I’d be stupid not to take things to the next level.
As you get older, although you become more confident & gain greater experience, the pool of women becomes polluted. While many of them have gone through their whoring around phase & finally their looks have left them, some have tried to be a better person & have the marriage / kids / bliss thing, only to find they or their partner was in denial about what they wanted. Listening to what someone else tells you will make you happy will never work; much like religion, you have to find your own path there yourself.
In either case, as a man age brings you less viable options for finding a good quality partner, should you have decided that is what you next desire. Either you’ll be left with the used up old whores; often the case with ‘successful’ corporate drones who’ve never worked on their interpersonal skills & for example, have never approached a woman in their life, suddenly have the most attractive woman they’ve ever seen in their life showing an interest in them. Having been deprived of any meaningful female interaction throughout the years & being limited to the small pool of corporate women (often appallingly unattractive or massively over competed upon in certain industries), the man can’t believe his luck; although it’s as clear as a Swiss lake. She’s realising she’s losing her primary ‘talent’ (looks) & needs to lock in something for the future. Deprived corporate drone has such a low opinion of himself from over the years of middle management corporate sniping in his dreary career, he’s only too happy to oblige.
The second option is women who are divorced or separated & have children. I don’t blame them at all, but they’re usually looking for some security, trying to use whatever they have to offer for the benefit of the child, in the least prostituting way. Not that this is related to nationality in any way, but I know a Serbian girl who is very much like this. When she arrived, there was definite chemistry between us (you can usually tell from slightly too long looks between you & a person I find). I was quite aggressive in trying to get her number, but despite the obvious attraction between us she wouldn’t give it up. I asked her about this a few weeks later & she said basically she wanted something serious; I found out she has a eight year old kid & is now dating some sports nutrition millionaire. I can’t really compete with impromptu four days in Los Angeles, although allegedly fucking me is like fucking a porn star you’re in love with, so maybe she’ll come around after an ‘coincidental’ meeting in the jacuzzi.
But jokes aside, as well as being smoking hot, she’s pretty cool & we get on well now. If I was in her situation, I’d probably do exactly the same thing. And this is what you’ll often find with these women; very down to earth but also fiercely practical because they have a dependent.
The third option are the girls who aren’t so maliciously self serving, of which there is a reasonable amount. But very often, there’ll be a reason why they are single or perpetually dating. Character flaws are the most common; overly demanding or clingy, damaged to the point of general mistrust, no longer able to open up emotionally, something preventing them from enjoying sex (some girls have some really bizarre psychological quirks with sex, not in a good way either), treating you like you’re their ex & so on. In my experience, anyone who exhibits signs of some behaviour early on (jealousy, clingy etc) will simply not improve, & will rather cut you off completely than acknowledge they need to change themselves, for their own good if nothing else. Depending on your tolerance levels, these can often not be worth the bother, although you can have successful short relationships with them, before their negative characteristics fully manifest.
If you’re just looking for straightforward sexual arrangement, married women whose husbands have no interest in them sexually any longer are by far your best bet. I actually think it’s really tragic this happens so often, but for whatever reason some men have no interest sexually in their wives at all sometimes. You get to be the exciting lover in their heads, while they absolutely love being screwed by you, & you don’t have to deal with any of the emotional hassle, except the occasional lament about ‘oh, it’d be so nice if we could be together’, which of course will never work because the context will be entirely different & no longer have the forbidden excitement. An Algerian woman I’ve been seeing absolutely loves fucking both me & her husband, but aside from that is a really sweet, normal women.
This post has dragged on long enough now, but my point is; whatever you’re into, if you find someone who let’s you do it & isn’t a dickhead, they’re probably worth more than you may first realise.